Family Crisis

This week in class we talked about family crisis and coping mechanisms. I have learned that family crisis can either strengthen or weaken families. This is all based on the actual event, the resources and responses involved, and the perceptions of those in the situation, which add up for the total experience. This is called the ABCX model.

Some different events that cause family crises are: family separation, illness, injury, death, tragedy, the birth of children, etc. Many things can cause stress in a family, but there can be many different results. For example, in one family a death might result in everyone feeling distant and broken, while in another family it might result in them coming closer together, and supporting each other. Taking a different look at things, and taking on a different view of a situation is called reframing. The way an event effects a family depends on how they look at it. It is also important to have understanding, and to listen to one another.

It is also important to know that stress can be a good thing. When astronauts come back from space, their bones and muscles are weaker because they had been lacking the stress of gravity, which causes our bodies to become stronger. The cells in their body do not replace themselves at the same rate because the stress that caused them to do so is not present. Stress in life makes it possible for us to develop and become stronger. It is a good thing when used correctly.

Some healthy coping mechanisms to strengthen families during a crisis are:

• Taking responsibility for yourself, and your family. Do not try to blame others for the situation you are in. Blame only causes hurt. 
• Using available resources. If you need help dealing with something, see a counselor or professional who can help you through the tough times.
• Encourage the expression of feelings. Don't try to shut out feelings for fear of appearing weak, or fear of losing control. It is good, and healthy, to express emotions. 
• Turn to family and friends for support. They know you best, and can probably help you in ways you might not even think possible. 
• See how a tragedy can help you learn and grow, instead of focusing on how difficult it is for you. 

If you apply good coping mechanisms to your life during times of crises, you will be better off, and will have greater relationships with your family. Try not to let the depression and despair consume you. Just know that there is always a way to benefit from the hard things in life.